Wellness used to be a term I loved. I still like it, but I feel like diet culture is transforming it. Wellness is now an umbrella term to disguise diets. Some people claim that if they are following a certain calorie plan or way of eating, that they’re following wellness. So, it’s become a bit vague.
When I talk about wellness, I’m referring to overall health. But then again, what even constitutes health?
I think health and wellness changes for people depending on stage of life. Heck, it may even change within the week or month. My “wellness” routine and priorities right now are even alot different than 5 weeks ago when I was pregnant. And of course, vastly different from marathon training, from when I was in grad school, and even from when I got married. Life happens and we adapt.
After reading my friend Sam’s post, I was inspired to show what wellness looks like for me now with a 5 week old by my side.
Nutrition has not been on my forefront lately. As I’ve mentioned before, just making sure to eat consistently is important for me and my main priority. Less important is what I’m actually eating. I’m sure that will change as I get more accustomed but I’m proud to say, we’re eating regular meals and snacks over here!
I think this is so important for new moms. When I was counseling moms, we’d talk about easy “grab and go” snack ideas. Or meal prep that can help. Or, meal delivery services. As a new mom, it’s not the time to intricately plan all of your meals. You’ve got a new human to worry about! You do have to take care of yourself, though, but don’t stress about making every meal perfect.
I ate eggs for every meal one day, and had frozen pancakes for dinner twice. Rotisserie chicken has been a lifesaver, as well as all the meal prep I did pre baby. And the friends who have brought food over have been saints.
What I’m munching on…
Poptarts and eggs.
Enchilada Bake for Cinco De Mayo.
Lots of sandwiches with random things.
We actually haven’t been out to eat at all in the last month, and we’ve done minimal takeout. I’m sure that will change, as I get the itch to eat out more (and when Camryn is more mobile) but for now, we’re making it work. It’s not perfect, but we’re fed and happy!
This is the longest break I’ve ever taken from exercise (5 weeks straight). If we’re being honest, I thought it would be a lot harder than it’s been. Of course I miss running and the adrenaline from a good, hard workout. But, at the same time I feel like I’m really honoring my body right now. Birth is INTENSE and requires lots of rest and recovery. With less than stellar sleep (see below), I’m not even extremely motivated to go out and exercise.
I think ample rest has been good for my body. Walking has been just what I need to really take the time to appreciate what my body has done to this point, and what I hope to do in the future.
That being said, I had my 5 week checkup yesterday and I’ve been cleared to exercise. However, I think I’ll ease into it. I may even wait another week to start running. I’m in no rush and don’t want to end up making things worse off.
Sleep is not great right now, and a healthy sleep pattern definitely plays into me feeling good. I’d be lying if I said that chronically low sleep isn’t taking a toll on me. It definitely is. I just keep telling myself this part of being a mom is temporary, and babies learn to sleep longer soon! And then I remind myself it’s all worth it for this cutie.
I think one thing that’s helping me big time in terms of transitioning to new momhood is trying to get out of the house every day. Even if it’s just for a walk. Sunshine helps, and social interaction also helps – both are contributing to my wellness.
My friend Sam brought over lunch one day and we sat outside on my porch and ate it and caught up on life. That was much needed and so awesome of her!
We met up with some friends last weekend at a brewery. Cam has been to two now, and she has been very well behaved! I try to plan it out timewise though, because in the back of my mind, I know I’ll either have to breastfeed while we’re out or plan to bring a bottle and keep it cold. So, it definitely requires ample planning!
Walking and sunshine definitely brightens my mood.
It’s not as easy now as it used to be but I’m realizing that I need time and space to myself to function properly. I got a massage yesterday which was awesome. I really needed it since I think I’ve been hunched over alot during breastfeeding.
Sometimes, I go for walks alone without the stroller when Ed’s home to watch the baby. I’ve savored and enjoyed some glasses of wine, and several episodes of Suits. I’ve had days where I haven’t opened my computer, and they were totally dictated by newborn snuggles only. I’ve had friend dates (and hope to have more), had phone conversations with grandma (those always cheer you up), and had plenty of visits from friends and family.
I think having things to look forward to is paramount, too! We have some upcoming trips which I’m excited about. My sister and her fiance are visiting this weekend, which should be fun. And I try to plan little things to look forward to – like coffee dates, Cam’s milestones, movie time with Ed and visiting coworkers.
I’m learning to expect and understand spontaneity. Of course I knew life would be more unpredictable with a newborn. Now I understand that our plans for the day revolve around her. When Cam wants to eat, I need to make myself available to feed her. If we have appointments, I’ve learned that things take 3 times as long as they used to (and I’m working on not being late).
That’s what’s filling my cup now in this transition time. It’s been hard but fruitful, and I’m learning so much about myself and how hard it is to take care of another human. Cheers to being a grown up!
What’s filling your cup these days?